My Angel Needs Strength P2

I started this to give readers a better understanding of what my Angel is going through with her husband she is asked for a divorce from.

Her marriage has been very rough for her since 2003, her younger sister past away and she didn’t cope with it at all, reason being is because her husband did not allow her to go to Sydney to be with her on her final days. When the funeral came around he was more concerned about catching up with friends he’d hadn’t seen for a while rather then comfort he’s grieving wife.

The real problems how ever started when they had an argument and he stated that she was his property and could do what he liked. He started to put her down constantly and at one point he put up a whiteboard with duties for the day to be done in case she forgot what she needed to do. A lists of house chores were on there for her to do. The put downs have gotten her to the point where she is asking if she should be guilty for feeling happy, asking friends should she feel bad about leaving him.

She’s had so much verbal abuse that she has no self esteem; she walks on egg shells all day to ensure she doesn’t trigger an argument, she’s had all money taken from her and he’s sold the car that was registered to her. Her calls to friends including myself are tracked. But the worst I have seen is when she gets blasted in-front of the 2 kids who are 4 & 6.

I’ve been with the kids since Sept 08 and they keep telling their mom that they like coming to my place because we have fun here and their mother is always happy and relaxed here.

The husband knows about me and knows about the relationship that we have, and how much she loves me; she’s been honest with him about everything she feels for me and when he asked if she wanted to stay married with him or leave him for me, her reply was to stay with me.

I’ve been in a divorce myself and I lost everything I had during that processing, but I never once treated my ex the way other partners would have treated them not in marriage and after the divorce. You don’t put someone down and keep hammering until they can’t think for themselves, you don’t tell them that they can’t do anything right and constantly rub issues in their face, and you don’t ever under-mine them in-front of children.